Valentine’s Day is a weird one for everyone, right? Couples that place too much importance on it come off as insecure and disingenuous. Single people who overcompensate for their loneliness with rants on capitalism or social media reassurances that they’re going to get drunk with ‘the girls’ on Single’s Awareness Day are bluntly terrifying.

Regardless of how you feel about the holiday, I think we can all agree on something—giving (and getting) gifts is awesome.

Instead of making Valentine’s Day a time to reevaluate your love life, existent or not, use it as an opportunity to show love to others, and more importantly yourself. Make it the ultimate self-love holiday, and I guarantee your heart will grow three sizes.

You shouldn’t need an excuse to prove your love for yourself and your friends, but it sure beats moping around.

Here are some gifts (with click-through links) that I’d love to get, and therefore everyone else on this planet will obviously adore.

Gifts for friends:

Homemade cards

Your mom was right when she said that anything handmade is precious. In a world of emojis and emails, not a lot of thought goes into correspondence. That being said, you will totally be voted the coolest friend if you take the time to make something handcrafted. I recently went to a belated secret Santa exchange where a couple of people included hand-drawn notes and decorations with their gifts, and the entire party could not stop cooing over them. We’re talking major friend points here.

Best part is, your homemade valentines don’t even need to take that much creativity or time. There are plenty of kits available that will help you achieve ultimate cuteness, like the above little hedgehogs.

Alcohol

I think the explanation here is pretty simple. If being 21 has taught me anything, it’s that alcohol is one of the easiest gifts to give, but also one of the most appreciated.

While the “I’m single and wine is my valentine” sentiment is a little strong here, look for less obvious choices like local beers or nice whiskeys. Bonus points if the alcohol is holiday appropriate. In fact, if there’s no hearts on the packaging, I’m not sure it counts.

DIY bonus challenge: make and print out your own Valentine’s Day labels to slip onto the bottle.

Gifts for yourself

Bath bombs

I’ve recently become the stereotypical bath bomb girl (I only have one ‘thigh in bath tub’ picture on my Instagram, okay?) , but baths are seriously the best. Relaxing, calming, and totally pampering. Don’t you deserve an hour or so to totally chill out? Treat yo’ self with some bath goodies.

Lush is my choice for all things bath-related. The price is pretty fair for a bomb or two and not to mention, their Valentine’s Day line is adorable. Also consider buying some essential oils to take your bath to the next level. You’re welcome.

Lingerie

Pretty underpinnings are one of the more obvious choices for Cupid’s holiday, and depending on who gives it to you, it can either be exciting or disgusting.

OK, let’s be honest—it’s probably just gross in 90% of cases.

However there is a way to totally cheat the system and avoid any creepiness: buy lingerie for yourself! Everyone deserves to feel beautiful and sexy, and walking around your apartment feeling like a Victoria Secret model is the most fun. And you know what you should do in that lingerie? Eat some freakin’ ice cream. Because you deserve it.

Despite name dropping them earlier, you’ve got options other than VS. Supporting smaller lingerie brands is something I feel strongly about, mainly because the designs are SO much more creative, and tend to fit a wider range of body types.

Above all else, be sure to first love yourself on this weird Hallmark holiday.

Bonus Gifts for the Cute People in your Life